CHOOSE WITH NO REGRETSAnd Start Loving the Adventure that is Your Life
Choose To Change the World on Purpose. Choose a Way You’ll Love.
You’re smart. You know you want your career to matter. You’ve had an excellent education, and you have some life experience. You made it through those first brutal years after college, and now you have some idea of the lay of the land.
You’ve been successful where you are, but where you are now is no longer where you want to be, and the people a few years ahead of you aren’t where you’d like to be either. You’re not feeling aligned with where you are or what you’re doing anymore…
But you have no idea where you want to go next.
Or, maybe, you have a million ideas of where to go next. And your choices feel like a giant buffet that you’re staring at, holding on to your little plate, as the beautiful platters steadily start to disappear, one by one, dish by dish, the longer you stare at them.
After a while you figure you’ll just head to grad school. Any grad school. At least you’ll be doing something productive, and then you won’t have to think about this for another few years.
Or maybe you’ve already done grad school, but, while you learned a lot, you still aren’t clear about what you want next.
In any case, you find yourself thinking: What should I do?
(And why do these big career and life decisions feel so hard?)
You’re not crazy. If you are an aspiring world changer, someone who wants the world to be different (in a good way) because you’ve lived, the pressure you put on yourself is enormous.
Making a decision about what to “do” means choosing the kind of lifestyle you want, the kind of people you’ll work with, the kind of day to day work you’ll do, and the skills you’ll learn.
In short…. your choices create and define your life.
That’s one reason it’s so hard. Here’s another:
You can’t Google, “What should I do with my life?”
Well, you can, but… Google doesn’t have that information.
Neither does your mentor, your boss, your parents, your significant other, or your cat. All these people may (or may not) have great insights into who you are and what you are capable of, BUT –
Here’s the thing: if you keep looking to everyone else for what you should do, you’ll keep doing what everybody else thinks you should do.
YOU are the only person who really knows. The only person who can make these decisions. Who can answer these questions. You are the one who has to answer, “what will my life mean?”
No matter how many personality test you take, no matter how many friends, colleagues, and mentors you ask, you are the only one who can answer.
Your life has never been lived before. Your gifts, and situation, and life experience exist together in a combination that is totally unique. The flow of your life may follow a universal pattern, but it’s a one of a kind adventure that is all yours to create and live.
No one else has as much information as you about your dreams, skills, and abilities.
But sometimes it can get damn noisy up there in your head.
And while you feel so unsure about what to do next, at the same moment you may feel incredible pressure as the time keeps passing you by. When you pop in to Facebook to escape for a moment, the feeling just gets worse, as you see all the pictures of your network, having a blast in incredible places, doing meaningful things, getting married, having babies….and the life FOMO (fear of missing out) just makes it worse. Add to that to the fact that your name still hasn’t made it on to the lists of the people who are 40 under 40, 30 under 30, 20 under 20, and the pressures just grows. And you’re already WAY too late to make it on the “5 under 5” list.
You’re not excited about your birthday at all – instead of looking forward to celebrating an amazing year, you just feel pressure to figure it out already.
Your Choices Create Your Life
You’re not crazy, and believe me, you’re not alone. Even so many of the people who look like they’ve got it all figured out wrestle with these questions.
I work with smart, purpose-driven people facing these kinds of big decisions and working to build meaningful lives and careers. I hear this all the time. You’re not the only one who feels this way. And I’ve definitely been there.
I’ve been the spunky newbie eager to make a mark, who realizes that despite all my energy and enthusiasm, I’m not in the right place.
I’ve been the one who was scared to leave a life that felt like a cage because I was even more afraid that this was the best there was – that there wasn’t anything better for me out there.
I’ve been the one who looks like she has it all together in a job other people envied…but underneath the veneer, work was a struggle because it felt like what I was doing wasn’t fully aligned with who I was and what I valued.
I’ve Been There. So Have My Clients.
After being there, and most importantly, getting out of those places, I know that so much more is possible.
So I became a certified life coach, or, as my teacher Martha Beck likes to call it, a wayfinder. And I built my practice as a career decision coach to serve the people I most adore, whose work and happiness I find the most compelling: passionate, caring, multitalented people who want the world to be better because they have lived.
And here’s what I also know, from my life, and from the lives of my clients: no one built a life that is fulfilling, impactful, and deeply meaningful to them by following somebody else’s path.
You Already Have What You Need to Choose with No Regrets
From my experiences, and my work with my incredible clients, I know that if you learn to trust yourself, it’s possible to:
Uncover and connect with your life purpose. A sense of meaning that will show itself in different forms throughout your life, in different ways, but is the essence of who you are and what you bring to the world.
Align your work with your mind and your heart…so that you know you’re in the right place. To own what matters most to you, and learn to recognize when where you are is or is not aligned with who you want to be.
Shift your life so can feel better right now, even before you make you make any big moves. So you don’t have to wait to start loving the journey that you’re on, and so you can access the inspiration and energy you need to make a positive change.
Learn to listen to and trust the deep part of yourself that is always steering you in the right direction. So that you can trust yourself to make the most of all the decisions you face in the future
And above all: Access the clarity, courage, and confidence to choose with no regrets.
And here’s the other great news: you already have everything you need to choose with no regrets, and step out into the adventure that is a life you’d love to live. You are the person you’ve been waiting for.
You are on a hero’s journey – one completely unique to you, if you will only answer the call.
You Don’t Have to Do This Alone
And here’s some even better news: while this journey is uniquely yours, you don’t have to do this alone. Your journey will not be mine, but I’m here to walk with you, if you’ll have me.
You don’t need me to learn to trust yourself, choose with no regrets, and live your life purpose. LIke I said before, you have everything you need. But if you want someone to walk with you to help ease the path – someone trained and practiced in the fine art of dissolving the mental blocks that often get in the way, someone who already believes in the beauty of your dreams – then I would love to walk with you.
Let’s Work Together
If you’d like to explore working together, here is how it works:
Click the button below to sign up for a free connection session at a time that works for you, and we will meet virtually, over Skype, where we can explore what is going on together, and see if we might be a good fit.
When you pick a time, you’ll receive a link with a few questions for you to answer before our call so that we can make the most of our time together. We’ll talk through what, specifically, is happening in your life, and explore what you know (or don’t know) about where you’d like to be headed. If, after our conversation, I don’t think it’s a good fit, I’ll tell you, and try to send you on your way with some helpful resources.
If we both think that we are a good match, I’ll invite you to my eight session program. You bring yourself and your dreams, and I’ll bring the structure. While I have a core process and set of tools and exercises designed for this particular work, I tailor each session to where you are and what you need in this moment, and we’ll work through the program at a pace that feels good to you, usually over a period of two to six months.
I adore the word “wayfinder,” because that is what I do: I help you find your own way, and the courage to walk it.
I won’t ever tell you what to do. What choice to make. That’s your decision. But I will help clear out the noise that makes it so confusing. I will help you cut to the heart of the issue, and I will love you no matter what.
I will be here to cheer you on while you walk your epic journey – to help you up when you fall down, to celebrate your success, and to help you read the signs along the way.
I already believe in the beauty of your dreams. I already believe in your potential. You don’t have to prove it to me – you just have to show up and do the work.
If you want to explore working together, finding a time to connect is the first step. Just click below to schedule a free connection session.
Frequently Asked Questions
So, you're a coach. But what do you mean by coaching? What do we actually do?
I know, it’s such an interesting word to use, right? I had excellent sports coaches growing up, so it doesn’t bother me that much, but the label is imprecise at best, and I can understand why it would seem confusing or vague.
I will do my best to explain, but know that while people go through very similar processes, the particular combinations of exercises and tools we would use together are unique to each person, because people come to work with me because they want help with the most individual of decisions – with the challenges that were custom made for them.
Some people think that a coach is someone who tells them what to do. And in some senses, that is what happens, like with a sports coach, but with your life: focus on this angle, notice what is happening here, experiment with this approach and see what happens. I have a variety of skills, exercises, and games to help you dissolve and work through the challenges holding you back, and to direct your attention to the parts of your life that you can make immediately better. I’ll give you useful things to do to clarify what you want, help you discover important truths about yourself, and figure out how to apply that knowledge to your daily life and to your decisions about your future.
But I should also say that life/career coaching, at least the kind I practice, is not about giving you advice and telling you what to do. It is about helping you find your own answers, the ones that are most true for you, now.
As some people have said, I’m like a trail guide that can help you find your way back to yourself. I’ve been on many journeys like this one, so I bring with me the experience of what these journeys are like. This is how I can help you read the signs, even though we are walking to a place that has never been explored before, because it is uniquely yours.
How is coaching different from just talking to a good friend?
Another great question! There are a few important reasons I’d love to highlight:
Training & Skills
I talk more about this in the question below this one, but while having a compassionate listener in the form of a wise friend is a beautiful thing, working with someone who does this kind of deep way-finding professionally, who has the tools and the techniques to not only listen to what’s happening, but help you make meaningful progress in working through your fears and questions, clarifying your dreams, and taking action towards them is powerful.
But don’t worry – your friends will still have a lot to help you with, it will just likely be different and more interesting things from week to week! :)
Your friend(s) probably has the same blind spots you do.
Our friends tend to be in similar life situations, think similarly, and may even be struggling with similar issues, whether or not they want to admit it.
If you want to learn and grow into a new level of love for your life and work, it’s probably going to mean doing some things differently, seeing some new options, or approaching things in a new way.
“I love you and I don’t care what you do.”
The first time I heard this phrase from an expert coach teacher, it kind of stung. You don’t… care? I confused the idea of “I don’t care what you do,” to “I don’t care about you.” They are actually two radically different things, and the difference is really important.
What it means is that I will love you no matter what you decide, and, more tangibly, that your decisions don’t affect the logistics of my life. I’m not invested in whether or not you stay with your boyfriend, or move to Tahiti, or decide to become a underground activist circus performer – it doesn’t affect my plans.
For your family and friends, any decision you make could be incredibly inconvenient, or at the very least scary and emotionally taxing. Sometimes the people who love us the most have a hard time separating our potential challenges and pain from their own. And often the people who love us the most want more than anything to protect us and keep up safe. Unfortunately, answering a call to adventure is rarely “safe” in any sense of the word. But then again, neither is staying stuck and never changing, which is infinitely more miserable.
I don’t have any of that baggage. The only thing I’m invested is you: you taking care of yourself, you doing what feels most true for you, you making empowered choices – that you honor yourself, and, if you choose, the calling of your purpose, whatever that may look like.
Being in this state is a skill that I deep-practice with every session, and I think one of the most underrated and incredible benefits of having a coach.
What training do you have to do this? Are you certified?
Excellent question! Yes. I am a Certified Martha Beck Life Coach. That means, in addition to my previous professional experience, I went through about a year of specialized, interactive training in a variety of coaching tools and techniques, as well as ethics and professionalism (which is particularly important in this field where there is very little external regulation). After completing the training and logging the required hours needed to apply for certification, I passed both a written and oral examination to earn my certification.
However, what I think is most important about having gone through this particular training is the ethos and philosophy behind the program: the core values of being transparent, authentic, and open, and that our clients are the highest authority on living their best lives. These are essential values of my practice, and there is both a confidence and a humility to this particular training that I think is both unique and essential to my effectiveness as a coach.
Beyond the training itself, and from a more tactical/practical perspective, my background is in organizational development, and my experience is primarily people-centered: whether leading a program team in the nonprofit sector, or hiring and managing people and operations.
Beyond that, all I can say is that I’ve been doing this kind of work in one form or another for my entire life.
I live in (or close to) Boston. Can we meet in person?
Yes! I have in person times after 6pm. We meet at Impact Hub Boston, at 50 Milk Street.
I'm not in (or anywhere near) Boston. Can we work together?
Yes! My clients are from all over. As long as you have a reliable internet connection, we can work together. I like to use Skype, or, for those who find video distracting, the good old-fashioned phone (if you are international, we can also do this via Google Hangouts with no video).
What My Incredible Clients SayTake it from people who have worked with me...
I’ve always dreamed of being a world-changer, a rain-maker, a vivacious badass businesswoman; in my mid-20s, I was on my way.
But pre-Alchemi, I was staring down two very different paths, trying to forecast which one would unlock the impact and happiness I imagined over the long term.
Lindsey was the trail guide I needed, helping me to map out a vision, embrace my calling, and stare down the fear that what I want isn’t possible.
As we worked together, I applied for top-notch graduate schools and identified some invisible limiting beliefs that held me back from embracing my desires and ambitions.
Today I’m on my chosen journey, and though it’s not always simple, I often stop to remember to the clarity and certainty I forged in working with Alchemi.Daron Sharps
About six months ago, I was in the midst of a hugely emotional transition in my life + business. (I’m a self-employed blogger and small business consultant.) And by “in the midst,” I mean that I was at a crossroads but had been unable to move forward for weeks due to a paralyzing sense of overwhelm and self-doubt. I had never worked with a life coach before but I decided to work with Lindsey because I know that she is someone who believes that no matter how overwhelmed or imperfect we might feel, we still have everything we need at any given moment to move forward and make a positive impact in the world around us.
And I was right. For four months, Lindsey and I worked together, with our sessions going so much deeper than the “help-me-make-a-decision-
In short, Lindsey did so much more than help me make big decisions about my business and my life – she helped me find the confidence and the courage to act on them.
Working with Lindsey Rogers for the past year has radically expanded my life and career for the better. Her approach is compassionate but no-bullshit, and she’s come through some serious life transitions of her own — so she knows what it’s like to go from social enterprise to finance to solo work to transitional job to supercorporate, and what it’s like to feel hopeful and proud and crazy and freak out all at once.Rachel Fagen
I’m not going to try and scare you or bully you with doomsday predictions about how your life is going to be horrible if you don’t DO something (suspiciously like hiring me, cough cough) RIGHT THIS INSTANT. For one thing, I know that it’s highly likely that you already say those kinds of things to yourself. I used to do it all the time – one of my favorite phrases was, “we’re already 94!” (meaning that we were already almost dead and time was spiraling out of control). So I’m not going to encourage that kind of thinking – not only does it not do you any favors, but I think it might be a self-fulfilling prophesy – and that’s not what I’m here to do. I want you to do what’s best for you. Really. Truly. Always.
I firmly believe that there is always time to realign our lives with our highest purpose, to live more fully, to love the adventure that is our life – and that there will always be time if we choose to take it.
But, knowing what I know now, if working together feels like it’s calling you, my question to you would be: why wait?
Why wait to feel better about where you are, and where you’re going?
Why wait to feel better about your work in the world and love your day to day life doing it?
Why wait to name and claim your purpose, own your mission, and choose with no regrets?
And, why not do it with someone who might make you laugh at some of your crippling fears? Maybe to their face?
Either way, I’m doing a little dance for you over here – for whatever you choose. Because you can do this. Go get ’em :)